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Touch is crucial for infants and remains important throughout people's lives. In fact, medical research on touch has shown that it improves many situations, for both adults and children, by lessening anxiety, calming fears, decreasing pain, lowering blood pressure, reducing stress, soothing the sick and alleviating loneliness.

Are you a short guy who is self conscious about your height? Do you think it is affecting your dating lifestyle? Well, did you know that there are a lot of women who could care less about your height? It's true.


If you haven't met them yet, it's probably because you gave up too fast. You haven't asked enough women out so you can get to her yet. Yes, most women want to be with a guy who is at least 5' 8," but you would be surprised by the number of women who don't care if you are shorter than that.
It didn't matter to a lot of these women. It's a great site to visit! At shortsupport.org is a list of famous people who are / were much shorter than you think. For example: Elton John is 5' 3.5." We found this very hard to believe, until we found out for myself. He must wear lifts.


Alan Ladd was 5' 4." He was one of the biggest actors during his time. He too must have worn lifts. The same with Audie Murphy (war hero and actor), who stood in at 5' 5". The studios didn't care about their height, obviously, because of their attitude, character and the way they carried themselves. Remember that!


And how about Michael J. Fox? He stands in at 5' 4." You don't think the studios could have gotten taller actors for the roles he played in? He too got them because of the way he carried himself, and also because of his personality.


Here are a few more:
Rod Stewart: 5' 5."
Dudley Moore: 5' 2.5."
Robert Blake: 5' 4."
Scott Hamilton: 5' 3.5.''
Phil Collins: 5' 5."


The reason why these famous people seem taller is because of their attitude about themselves. Speaking of which, did you know that Jimmy Hoffa was only 5' 5"? And this guy ran a union for truck drivers! Steve McQueen and Paul Newman stood in at 5'9," and even though that really isn't a short stature, nevertheless it is only a couple of inches shy from being short. They look taller in some of their movies because they obviously wore lifts.


And speaking of lifts�DON'T USE THEM!! They have to come off eventually anyway, right? Why not have women see you for who you are? It's just like wearing a wig. It has to come off eventually. She may very well be unpleasantly surprised. How would you like it if it's done to you? Show your true self up front.


Yes, many women will reject you because of your height, but not all will. Whenever you go out, you will see short men with very cute women who are taller. If that doesn't convince you that there are many women who don't care, you have a problem, and it's not your height!


Many women surveyed on this subject have said that they don't mind having a short mate, as long as they were the same height. So, find a woman who is your height! And then let your personality and character take care of the rest.

Have you ever wondered "what is the secret to a long and happy marriage?" Our collection of tried and true marriage advice tips will help you answer that very question!  

1. Never assume.
2. Compliment more than you criticize.
3. For each time you vent about your husband/wife to your friends, tell three positive stories.
4. Remember that it is ok to do things differently (e.g. there is more than one way to Peel a potato or fold the laundry).
5. Always make time for the two of you.
6.  Marry Someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.
7. Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.
8. Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.
9. Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly. This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions (or lack of) or expenditures.
10. Never go to bed angry. (Unless it's 3a.m. and you're exhausted, angry, and not thinking straight.)
11. Remember that people do fight. It's how you do it that matters.
12. Before starting an argument, consider if it's really worth it.
13. Fight naked. ;)
14. Agree to disagree.
15. Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).
16. Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?
17. Respect each other's privacy.
18. Remember that "love is like childhood. You need to learn to share."
19. Marriage is not 50/50, it's two people giving 100/100 all of the time.
20. Surprise each other now and then.
21. The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!
22. Have date night!
23. Never pass up an opportunity to say "I Love U".
24. Hold hands.
25. Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).
26. Always believe that you got better than you deserved.
27. Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
28. Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.
29. Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
30. Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.
31. Hang in there. It's worth it.
32. Play nice, play often, love much.
33. Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.
34. Never keep secrets from each other.
35. Be each other's champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!
36. Communication is the key!
37. Always respect each other.
38. Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
39. It's the little things that matter most.
40. Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.
41. It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.
42. Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.
43. Don't make love in the same place/position everytime. Variety is the spice of life!

Every marriage needs a healthy dose of on-going romance to add spice, delight, and fun to the relationship. It's not enough to just start out with a sizzling romance. You have to find a way to keep the romance alive as the months and years accumulate.

One of the marital challenges many couples face is how to live together without losing that special romantic spark. It's all-too-easy to lose the role of lover along the way. When this happens, spouses often start relating to each other as they would to a friend or a sibling. Parents can begin to feel they are only "business partners" joined together to raise their children and keep the household running.
How can you keep romance alive when your daily work schedule is grueling, you're always short on time and energy, and you're not sure what to do? Here are ten tips to help you sprinkle romance into your marriage:


1. Pay attention when your spouse mentions things he or she likes or expresses interest in something that could make a good gift, such as a new CD, a book, or theater/concert/sports tickets. Be on the lookout for ideas for birthday, holiday, and anniversary gifts, plus "no reason" surprise gifts. It's very flattering to know that someone really tried to find a gift that was just what you wanted.



2. Frequently offer foot massages, shoulder massages, and full-body massages to your spouse. You'll get plenty of romantic brownie points in your "relationship bank account" if you keep some great-smelling lotion handy and take ten minutes to massage your spouse's tired feet at the end of a long work day. Note: If you expect to be rewarded for your efforts by sex, you won't accumulate any points for being romantic. Your spouse will just think you have an ulterior motive when you offer a massage in the future.

3. Giving sweet cards and letters to your spouse can be romantic, as can emails and phone messages that share your feelings and passion. Handwritten letters sent through the mail are becoming more and more of a rarity. That's good for you because that means your spouse will think you're really romantic for taking the time to write a love letter by hand and mail it. That will make more of an impact than just sending an email if you want to get extra brownie points.

4. Another way to be romantic is to look for opportunities to pamper and spoil your spouse. That might be letting a spouse sleep in late while you watch the kids, or it could be telling your partner to sit down and relax while you clean up after dinner. The key is in the delivery of the offer. You might say, "Nothing's too good for my sweetheart" or "You're such a love. It's fun to pamper you." You can accompany your words with a hug or kiss



5. Talking in front of your spouse to someone else about your partner's good points is romantic. Take full advantage of opportunities to say, �I'm so lucky to have such a supportive wife (or husband)�she's such a treasure. I'm a lucky man." You can also do this when you're talking on the phone and know that your spouse is within listening range. If you're not sure your partner heard you, when you get off the phone ask, "Did you hear me telling my sister what a great husband you are? I was really bragging on you!"



6. In the romance department, flowers, plants, candy, or a special home-cooked meal never go out of favor. Many females love to receive beautiful fresh flowers or a box of delicious chocolate candy. Both husbands and wives can appreciate the efforts of a partner to put together an intimate, special home-cooked meal by candlelight with music playing and flowers on the table.

7. Surprise your spouse with a framed picture of the two of you in a setting that will bring back pleasant memories. Another option is to frame a picture of your spouse that shows him or her in a flattering way and let your partner know how much you love the photo. Keep it on your nightstand, computer, dresser, or desk and let your spouse see you looking at it admiringly.


8. Take the initiative to plan a surprise weekend outing. Call and make all the arrangements ahead of time. The outing doesn't have to be expensive or complex. It might be as simple as planning a picnic at a nearby scenic spot. You might prepare the surprise picnic lunch when your spouse is in the shower. Or you might make arrangements for a restaurant to pack a gourmet lunch for the two of you that you could pick up on your way out of town.

9. Music that you and your spouse both like can set a romantic tone. If you see a movie that you both enjoyed a lot, you might consider buying the sound track as a surprise gift the following week. You could also select a song that you both like and decide to make it "your song." Or you could pick a song and tell your spouse that it reminds you of him or her for some positive reason.

10. Celebrate every occasion you can think of�the anniversary of the day you met, when you became engaged, your marriage anniversary, your birthdays, seeing the full moon, and anything else you can come up with. You can toast with champagne (or non-alcoholic champagne) and perhaps have a celebration meal. But it can be just as fun to make a big deal out of going out for an ice cream cone to celebrate.

It's well known that that finances play a big role in a relationship and that financial stress often means doom for many marriages . In fact, studies show that money is the number on cause of marital problems, even over other hot button topics. With the economy souring, those that let the stress and anxiety infiltrate their relationship as well could see the same type of bust that we've see in the stock market.

Rather than let your relationship falter, follow these five tips to keep your relationship stock rising.

1. Save money. Have Sex.
   Skip out on the expensive dates and engage in some good old fashioned bedroom gymnastics. With all of the economic worries in today's world, you'll not only save money, but you'll strengthen your relationship at the same time.
   
2. Invest in your relationship.
   The stress of worrying about money, jobs, and the economy adds more stress on your relationship. While it's impossible to completely let go of all everyday stress and worries, the key is to make time for yourselves a priority. When you're figuring out this week's budget, make sure to budget for a night out for the two of you. If you cut back on quality time together, your relationship stock could falter. Instead, invest a little time and money each week into your relationship and you'll reap big returns.
   
3. Nurture your relationship nest egg.
   You may be avoiding the stock market lately, but don't hold out on your relationship as well. You always hear that it's the little things that count the most and it's 100% true. Small, random acts of love, such as holding hands when you're walking, big bear hugs, and unexpected kisses go a long way. Nurture your relationship by increasing your intimacy. Make an effort to touch one another, to cuddle, to hug, and to kiss. The more intimate you become in everyday situations, the stronger your relationship becomes.
   
4. Keep your interest rate up.
   When negative external factors, such as the economic difficulties we are currently experiencing, start to impact your relationship, the results can be devastating. The key here is to balance these negative forces so that you don't transfer them to your partner. For any fighting or complaining that occurs, make sure that passion and kindness occurs more often.
   
5. Watch out for falling passion.
   As difficult as it may be during tumultuous economic times, keep the stress in check. Research shows the stress decreases your libido, putting your relationship at risk for entering a passion rut. When your sexual relationship enters a rut, you risk distancing yourselves, which could lead to extramarital affairs, relationship splits, and more. The key is to lessen your stress, or at least effectively manage it, so that your sexual relationships do not suffer. Make a conscious effort to keep that passion rising in your relationship.